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Book Review: White Fragility & The 5 People You Meet in Heaven

The Five People You Met in Heaven by Mitch Albom

I heard about this book in middle school. I want to say we read it, or it was read to us by our English teacher; that exact detail I cannot remember, but I remember watching the movie right after we read the book. I remember the movie being good, so I wanted to reread the book.  

The story is about Eddie and the five people he meets in heaven. Each person gives him a life lesson. He realizes that everyone is connected in one way or another, although some didn’t know each other. And that everyone’s life mattered to him in some way.

It was a good book with a good life lesson that makes you realize each person we come across within our lifetime is for a reason. The sequel to this book is – The next person you meet in heaven, which I’ve added to my list to read.

White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo

My husband’s brother’s wife recommended this book, and I bought it last summer but didn’t come around to read it until now. How many of my book worms can relate? Anyways, I posted on Instagram asking if any of my followers had read it and a friend of mine told me she did and to take my time because it was a lot of information.

Well, it was a lot, and here are the few things that stood out to me.

She writes that racism is an institution placed by people in power, which were white males.
She uses the example of women’s right to vote. The only people who could give women the right to vote were white males because they were the only ones who could vote. But not all women got that right; it was only white women.

And to understand racism, we have to understand prejudice and discrimination. On page 20, she writes, “When a racial group’s collective prejudice is backed by the power of legal authority and institutional control, it is transformed into racism, a far-reaching system that functions independently from the intentions or self-images of individual actors.” She mentions how Thomas Jefferson wanted scientists to find natural differences between the races, but of course, there were none. But that in less than a century, his suggestion of racial difference became accepted as a scientific “fact” (Pg. 16). Jefferson needed this to be true to justify the enslavement of African Americans.

Because she writes that racism is institutionalized, this line on page 73 stood out to me; it says, “The simplistic idea that racism is limited to individual intentional act committed by unkind people is at the root of virtually all white defensiveness on this topic.” Which is probably why many white people say they aren’t racist or say, “I have friends that are black, so I cannot be racist.” They are the ones who really need to read this book to understand white fragility.

She addresses a myth of affirmative action that people think quotas or requirements are needed to be fulfilled by corporations, but what it really is a “tool to ensure that qualified minority applicants are given the same employment opportunities as white people” (pg. 92). But white women have been the ones who primarily benefit from affirmative action.

After reading this book, I realized this book falls in alignment with Critical race theory. According to, “the core idea is that race is a social construct and that racism is not merely the product of individual bias or prejudice, but also something embedded in legal systems and policies.” This is an academic concept that is over 40 years old. And no, it’s not taught in K-12 schools.

This book did teach me a lot, but I feel that those who really need to read it won’t. I am hopeful that changes will come to the US in regards to social justice and equality; however, those changes will happen slowly.

With Love, Heidy

Have you read this book? What was your take on it?

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Two Book Reviews: A Promised Land & The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*%k.

It’s time for another book review. I realized that I only did two book reviews last year, but I was reading the same book the whole year, Barack Obama’s memoir A Promised Land.

To be honest, I stopped reading it for a while because I got so sick with my pregnancy, so it took me over a year to finish this book. It’s also a long book, 768-page count, and there are a ton of words for pages. If you’ve ever heard Barak Obama talk, you know he likes to talk. LOL

I enjoyed reading this book and learning insights into his presidency. There were a few things I didn’t care about because of the politics of it, but overall, it was good. Here is my take on A Promised Land.

He started by giving a little background of his upbringing, like his time in college and law school, when he and Michelle met, his time spent working in public relations, and finally, as State Senator.

I found it interesting how he campaigned for his presidency—traveling with Michelle, their two girls, and his team. It all sounded extremely exhausting. He went from state to state, town to town, talking to so many different people. Exhausting!

While campaigning, he quickly realized how careful he needed to be with his words. And even during his presidency, words were always being misinterpreted. (It still goes on today).

We know that he ended up winning in 2008, and he first talks about the mess of an economy he inherited from the previous administration. Then talks about international affairs, the war in Iraq and Afghanistan, and the struggle his administration went through to get his Healthcare bill passed.

Towards the end of the book, he gives details of finding Osama Bin Laden, and they were fascinating, to say the least. As he explained the team he put together and the operation needed to find, capture, and then kill Bin Laden, it all sounded like a movie.

I was in high school when he was elected president, and I didn’t follow politics or the news like I do now, so I had not realized certain events he spoke about happened during his administration. I’m looking forward to reading part two of this book.

First time listening to an audible book, and a self-help book at that, it was Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*%k. Never had I heard the word f*%k so much in my life. LOL, but the book was humorous and kept me engaged.

Here is my takeaway from this book.

“If we are unwilling to fail, we are unwilling to succeed” – this quote stood out to me.

He tells us that we all care about things, but it’s often things that we shouldn’t care about or care too much about. We have to prioritize what we care about, what is truly important.

He brought up a good point in chapter 8. In western culture, people try so much to be liked and accepted that people sometimes try to change who they are depending on who they are with.

 Because of the pressure to be likable, people often reconfigure their entire personalities depending on who they are with.

I can relate to that, especially in my teenage years. I always wanted to be liked and never have issues with anyone that I would change depending on who I was with. I think it also stemmed from trying to find myself at that time.

The book ended with talking about death (I don’t want to give away too much), but it really got me thinking, what is your relationship with the word death? What do you think about when the word comes up? Do you get anxious thinking about when you’re going to die?

I sometimes do because we all have a fear of the unknown. Even as a believer, I still feel anxious because even though the Bible tells us that if you believe in Jesus, you’ll be saved and be with Him once you pass but we still don’t know exactly where that is.

I would recommend this book, and it’s opened the world of self-help books for me because I’m reading another self-help book, which was gifted to me last year.

Have you read any self-help books? If so, which ones?

With Love,


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