Today, we explore reverse culture shock through the eyes of Polly Clover, an SEO writer and consultant whose journey took her from a classroom in South Carolina to the vibrant landscapes of Vietnam and the serene shores of the U.S. Virgin Islands. Her story highlights the evolving definition of success and the courage to create a life that aligns with personal values and professional aspirations.
I met Polly online, I believe, in a Facebook writing group. She shared about her SEO business, and I signed up for her newsletter to stay up to date with SEO information. Eventually, I learned that she went to Vietnam to teach English, and I invited her to be on the show to share her experience of living there and in the U.S. Virgin Islands. It brings me joy to hear personal narratives of engagement across different cultures.
Childhood and Early Influences in South Carolina
Polly grew up in South Carolina with a loving family. However, life presented early challenges. The loss of her father at a young age and having a special needs sister shaped her perspective. Despite these difficulties, she describes her childhood as simple and good. Like many upbringings, it had its mix of good and bad, ultimately creating a foundation of resilience and gratitude.
She says that while growing up in the US, her family didn’t travel much. She had never been outside of the US before.
From Teacher to Expat: The Move to Vietnam
After college, Polly dedicated six years to teaching in South Carolina’s public school system. The intensity of the education field led to burnout. She felt a sense of boredom and a desire for something more. This prompted her to explore options beyond her familiar surroundings.
This exploration led her to the idea of teaching abroad. The concept resonated with her current skills and offered a chance for a fresh start. Within months, Polly decided to pursue this opportunity. She completed a program to teach English as a foreign language and made the brave decision to move to Vietnam.
She made the leap. Within a year, she had transitioned her life to Southeast Asia.
Initial Experiences and Cultural Adaptation
Arriving in Vietnam, Polly expected a significant culture shock, but she found a surprisingly smooth transition. Fueled by excitement and a readiness for new experiences, she embraced the cultural differences. She found the relaxed lifestyle, affordable living, and friendly locals particularly appealing. Joining a community of digital nomads and travelers further eased her adaptation.
The primary challenge she encountered was the language barrier. Over time, she learned to navigate daily life and work within this linguistic landscape.
Teaching English in Hanoi
Polly taught first grade at a private school in Hanoi. What made this unique was that her students already had a grasp on the English language. Although English is not widely spoken in Hanoi, Polly’s role allowed her to teach in English. She recalls it happened to work out that way.
After a while, she broke her foot, which led her to teach online and eventually start her own business.
The Return and Reverse Culture Shock
After two years in Southeast Asia, Polly returned to the U.S., expecting to readjust easily. However, she experienced a reverse culture shock that was more challenging than her initial move abroad. It has been about five years since she has been back, and still admits she hasn’t entirely adjusted.
She explains that she had quickly adapted to life abroad and enjoyed it more. This experience opened her eyes to issues in the U.S. and made it difficult to return to her previous lifestyle. The contrast between the open world she experienced abroad and the closed world she returned to was stark.
Polly encourages listeners to explore beyond their comfort zones, even if it’s just within their own country. She says she road-tripped around the US for a while.
U.S. Virgin Islands: A New Chapter
Polly Clover notes that her experience abroad significantly influenced her decision to move to the U.S. Virgin Islands. Seeking a different way of life, she and her fiancé moved there for a job opportunity. While acknowledging that island life isn’t perfect, she appreciates the laid-back atmosphere, beautiful scenery, and diverse community.
This move represents her desire to maintain a global perspective. The move allowed her to keep the sense of adventure she gained while living abroad.
Contrasting Life in the Virgin Islands with the Mainland U.S.
Although part of the United States, the U.S. Virgin Islands offer a distinct lifestyle. Polly points out that while many envision an idyllic existence, there are unique challenges. However, she values the relaxed pace and the opportunity to connect with people from diverse backgrounds. These connections enrich her life.
The U.S. Virgin Islands provides a blend of American familiarity and Caribbean culture. This creates a unique environment.
Defining the American Dream: A Personal Perspective
What does the American Dream mean to Polly? She acknowledges the traditional view. That is, anyone can achieve success in the U.S. However, she believes success requires personal effort. It looks different for everyone. While opportunities exist, individuals must create their own success. This is more challenging for some than others. It requires hard work and a clear vision of what success means to each person.
The American Dream isn’t a one-size-fits-all concept. It’s about understanding one’s desires and needs. It’s about defining success on personal terms. Polly helps people understand their potential. This leads to a more fulfilling life.
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