In this episode, I spoke with Kathy, a transformational coach, about her unique experience as a first-generation child of immigrant parents from two different countries. Kathy shares heartfelt stories about her upbringing, cultural identity, and navigating life as an immigrant child, but mostly navigating different worlds.
Kathy’s mother, a Chinese refugee from Vietnam, and her father, originally from Taiwan, met in Connecticut before moving to Morgan Hill, California, to open an American fast-food restaurant.
Kathy opens up about growing up as one of the few Asian families in a predominantly white small town and on the struggle of belonging, both in the U.S. and when visiting her parents’ home countries. She shares anecdotes about her trips to Taiwan, emphasizing the safety, hospitality, and cultural richness she experienced and the challenges of being labeled as “different.”
This seems to be a common theme among us who are children of immigrants.
Cultural Roots from Two Nations
Kathy’s mother, born in China but raised in Vietnam, brought a blend of Chinese traditions and Vietnamese influences to her family life. Her mom was a refugee – she was fleeing the war and, luckily, was able to come to the US.
Meanwhile, Kathy’s father hailed from a completely different background. He was born in Taiwan because his mother (Kathy’s grandmother) fled China during the war with the Japanese. Together, their experiences painted a vivid picture of multiculturalism in Kathy’s upbringing while also navigating living in a prominently white neighborhood.
As Kathy shares, growing up with immigrant parents means constantly adapting—both to the traditions at home and to the norms outside the family. Her story reminds us of the strength and resilience of immigrant families and their ability to create a unique identity for themselves and their children.
The Challenges of Bridging Generations and Navigating Different Worlds
Throughout the discussion, Kathy reflects on the challenges of being a bridge between two generations. She discusses how her parents’ struggles to adapt to life in a new country influenced her values, work ethic, and sense of gratitude. From learning to navigate language barriers to balancing cultural expectations, Kathy’s insights resonate with many who share similar experiences.
Kathy was an ESL student who remembers not knowing how to speak English when she started school. This made her a shy child because she was already the only Asian in class—she didn’t want to bring more attention to herself by showing that she didn’t know the language.
Key Takeaways
Cultural Complexity: Kathy’s life is a testament to the richness that comes from blending two unique heritages.
Identity Formation: The podcast highlights the importance of carving out a personal identity while honoring one’s roots.
Resilience: Kathy’s journey reflects the resilience of immigrant families and the unique challenges they overcome together.
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