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Book Review: the Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

A few months ago, my friend told me that she was going to read a marriage book since she and her significant other were going through a rough patch. To be supportive, I asked her what book to read it with her, and then we could talk about it, kind of like a book club, but it was just us two, LOL. “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work,” the book was by John M. Gottman, Ph.D., and Nan Silver.

I had never heard of this book before, but apparently, this one was revised and updated from the original one published in 2001. Dr. Gottman used results from his studies of couples over the years (he called it the Seattle Love Lab) in which he had them apply the principles to their marriages, and he shares results and examples in the book. The book also has exercises and quizzes for you and your partner to see where you stand within your own marriage.

I enjoyed this book because it talks about all issues that couples must address, like money, religion, work, family, and yes, even sex! I recommend this book to all married couples, whether newlyweds or not, because it can help strengthen the marriage if both parties are willing to put in the work. Although my husband and I were not going through a rough patch when I read this book, I still found it helpful because I’m a firm believer in constantly working on your marriage, even during the good times.

These are the principles for making marriage work!

Principle 1: Enhance Your Love Maps

Principle 2: Nurture Your Fondness and Admiration

Principle 3: Turn Towards Each Other Instead of Away

Principle 4: Let Your Partner Influence You

Principle 5: Solve Your Solvable Problems

Principle 6: Overcome Gridlock

Principle 7: Create Shared Meaning

Have you read any marriage books you could recommend? Please let me know in the comments.

With Love,


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