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The Importance of Having a Supportive Community

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Recently, I finished reading “Overcoming Underearning – A five-step plan to a richer life” by Barbara Stanny. It was gifted to me by my business coach, and honestly, at first, I didn’t think I was going to read it. First, I had never heard of Barbara Stanny, and second, I wasn’t interested in earning more money; my goal was to get my finances in order (you don’t necessarily need more money to achieve that). However, I’m glad I read this book, and I encourage any woman who has a business or needs to get their finances in order (like me) to read it.

In this book, Barbara provides five steps to a better life, as the title says, and today I want to talk to you about step four, create community.

Barbara says, “Whatever we achieve (or don’t) is significantly affected by our cumulative interactions with everyone we associate with on a regular basis.”

And this statement hit home when I read it. I immediately thought of my spouse, friends, and family members, who have supported all my projects. She says that there are four types of supporters:

  1. True Believers – say, “Go for it.”
  2. Confidantes – say, “I understand.”
  3. Way Showers – say, “You can do it, too; let me show you how.”
  4. Messengers – say, “I can help.”

It’s imperative to have support around you to reach any goal because we cannot do anything alone. I mean, you could, but it will be ten times harder and take ten times longer. You need people around you who will hold you accountable, provide resources, and inspire you.

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Think about your support system – do you share your goals with them? Why or why not? Can you share your goals with your friends? What about family members? Are they supportive? Why or why not? Barbara mentions that you are more likely to reach a goal or the next level by sharing your goals with one other person.

What about your spouse? Are they supportive? In the book, she mentioned that after finishing her workshop, some women ended up separating from their spouses because they realized the spouse was holding them back. Now, I’m not saying to get a divorce; I’m saying to re-evaluate who you have around you.

I share my goals with my husband, and I share the steps I am going to take to reach those goals. The kids are with my husband when I have events, meetings, or need to record a podcast episode. When I am struggling or have doubts about anything, I go to my husband for support. He gives me his perspective and sometimes suggestions on how to approach my challenge. If not, he always reminds me to pray.

 My closest friends celebrate my wins like they are theirs, and I do theirs. I try to support them in any way that I can. And you should have people around you like this, who believe in you and your dreams and will encourage and support you to achieve them.

Let me finish by giving you the six principles Barbara says you need to create a powerful community.

  1. Realize no one will do this for you, but you don’t have to do it alone.
  2. Reach out and ask for support.
  3. Hang out with the kind of people you want to be, not who you’ve been.
  4. Recognize the role of the naysayer.
  5. Watch what you talk about.
  6. Respect yourself by taking time for you.

Do you have a supportive community? Reach out if you need someone in your corner; I got you!

With Love, Heidy

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What Is the Value of Friendship?

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How would you define the value of friendship?

We all have friends, from the time we start school, and sometimes before that, if our parent’s friends have kids around our age, those kids usually become our first friends. And if we are lucky, those friends we have at that young age grow up with us and that friendship is for a lifetime. Many would consider those friendships more like family because you grow a bond with that person that is deeper than a friendship.

As we get older, we meet more people, like when we go from elementary to middle school, and middle school to high school, and then to college, and new friendships are created. Even in our workplace, we develop friendships that can become very close. But what is the value of friendship?

Value in friendship is the connection you have with that person.

In other words, an unconditional friendship. You are not trying to gain something out of this friendship because that would mean you’re not a true friend, you’re trying to benefit from knowing the person. Knowing that you can count on that person no matter what the situation is. Knowing that you can be vulnerable with them, and you won’t be judged. Knowing that you can be authentic with each other. That comfort with the person is valuable in a friendship.

This is why many times we are told to build a friendship with someone before entering a romantic relationship with them because friendship is the foundation of many relationships.

Another way to know the value of a friendship is if this person is helping you become a better version of yourself. A true friendship has support, helps you flourish, and will build you up. You should be doing the same for them.

What is the difference between a friendship that is valuable and one that is not?

A friendship that isn’t valuable is draining. You give and give, and nothing is reciprocated. They only come to you when they need something, or they come to you with the same issues each time you provide them with advice, and the next time it’s the same thing again, like a broken record. That gets tiring.

Be intentional with who you spend your time with because many times the enemy disguises himself/herself as ‘friends.’ Just like the Bible tells us……

“Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:8 NIV

We have people we meet in different stages of our lives, and we share different memories. There are friends that you don’t have to speak to every day to know that you are still friends, but when you do get together is like no time has passed. The connection is the same, the love is the same, and friendship is the same.

Sometimes some people you meet do not become your friend, sometimes they can just be an acquaintance or someone who is known to you but not known in a personal way. Not everyone you meet is your friend or will be your friend, and that is okay.

Do you have any friends you haven’t spoken to in a while? Check up on them and let them know that you appreciate their friendship.

Value those friendships that are true.

With Love, Heidy

Proverbs 27_9 Just as lotions and fragrance give sensual delight, a sweet friendship refreshes the soul_ _ The Message (MSG) _ Download The Bible App Now

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My Guest Posts!!!

The end of June and July was certainly exciting because I had my first guest posts published! I reached out to a few blogs and asked if I could guest post on their website. I had a few responses that they don’t do guest posts, but I did receive three, yes!!

The first guest post was published on The Godly Chic Diaries – you can read my post by clicking here. June has a fantastic faith-based blog right here on WP, and her posts are encouraging and uplifting about God and His marvelous work. I was so honored that this was my very FIRST guest post, and her followers were just as uplifting and encouraging!

My post was about how God removed my fear of loneliness. I decided to share my story because that fear stemmed from a young age, and I know many shares that fear too, but God is so powerful and amazing that He can help them as well.

My second guest post was published on, and you can read the post by clicking here. is a Christian Blog for young adults. They have articles on various topics like faith, relationships, and everyday living, but all with a Christian worldview.

I wrote about how the Growth Group at my church helped me grow in my faith, grow closer to God, and lead me to become an adult leader for the youth ministry.

The last guest post was published on Candidly Christian, and this blog is for Christian Woman. They have topics about faith, prayers, marriage, and parenting. You can read my post by clicking here.

This post was about overcoming bitterness after being betrayed. I got personal with sharing this story, but I know I’m not the only one who has been betrayed. Usually, afterward, the person becomes bitter because they are hurt and feel broken, but God helped me get through it, and He can help anyone else who has been in the same situation or similar.

I am humbled to had been featured in three different blogs, and I am looking forward to seeing where else God would like for me to share His messages.

If you read any of them let me know your thoughts. I love feedback.

With Love, Heidy


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