How would you define the value of friendship?
We all have friends, from the time we start school, and sometimes before that, if our parent’s friends have kids around our age, those kids usually become our first friends. And if we are lucky, those friends we have at that young age grow up with us and that friendship is for a lifetime. Many would consider those friendships more like family because you grow a bond with that person that is deeper than a friendship.
As we get older, we meet more people, like when we go from elementary to middle school, and middle school to high school, and then to college, and new friendships are created. Even in our workplace, we develop friendships that can become very close. But what is the value of friendship?
Value in friendship is the connection you have with that person.
In other words, an unconditional friendship. You are not trying to gain something out of this friendship because that would mean you’re not a true friend, you’re trying to benefit from knowing the person. Knowing that you can count on that person no matter what the situation is. Knowing that you can be vulnerable with them, and you won’t be judged. Knowing that you can be authentic with each other. That comfort with the person is valuable in a friendship.
This is why many times we are told to build a friendship with someone before entering a romantic relationship with them because friendship is the foundation of many relationships.
Another way to know the value of a friendship is if this person is helping you become a better version of yourself. A true friendship has support, helps you flourish, and will build you up. You should be doing the same for them.
What is the difference between a friendship that is valuable and one that is not?
A friendship that isn’t valuable is draining. You give and give, and nothing is reciprocated. They only come to you when they need something, or they come to you with the same issues each time you provide them with advice, and the next time it’s the same thing again, like a broken record. That gets tiring.
Be intentional with who you spend your time with because many times the enemy disguises himself/herself as ‘friends.’ Just like the Bible tells us……
“Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:8 NIV
We have people we meet in different stages of our lives, and we share different memories. There are friends that you don’t have to speak to every day to know that you are still friends, but when you do get together is like no time has passed. The connection is the same, the love is the same, and friendship is the same.
Sometimes some people you meet do not become your friend, sometimes they can just be an acquaintance or someone who is known to you but not known in a personal way. Not everyone you meet is your friend or will be your friend, and that is okay.
Do you have any friends you haven’t spoken to in a while? Check up on them and let them know that you appreciate their friendship.
Value those friendships that are true.
With Love, Heidy
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