So on Facebook people share what some nowadays call, “baby mama/baby daddy” drama. I, personally, am not a fan of the term, but whatever.

Some stories you see are of men who want to see their kids and the mother doesn’t let them. Some are that they see their kids and provide for their kids but the mother still gives them a difficult time.

Other stories you see are that the father says he will do something, like pick up the child and never shows up. And some are that the father isn’t present and doesn’t want to be present in the child’s life.

Of course, not everything is posted but you can get an idea of what is going on in the situation, and honestly, all these stories break my heart for the kids because they are the ones who are most affected by these situations.

If a parent wants to be present in the child’s life the other parent should let them unless they are causing harm to the child because at the end of the day the child deserves both parents in their lives.

Also, if one of the parents starts a new relationship and that person is good to the child then why make a big fuss about that person being around the child? Now, in my opinion, the only time any parent should bring a significant other around the child is when they are serious about each other. So I can understand if the parent has a concern about just random people being around the child because we hear too many stories about children being abused.

I would want to meet the female who would be around my daughter and be cordial around her because, again, all this will affect my daughter.

One last thing, speaking negatively about the absent parent to the child should not happen. Why fill the child with hatred? Speak life into your child, they will know what kind of person their other parent is when they are older and see it on their own.

Let me know your thoughts, I’d love to hear them.

By Heidy De La Cruz

Daughter of God, Wife, Writer, Poet, Mother, and lover of life