Loving again….

After being hurt and deciding to give love another try is brave but extremely scary. A lot of people are stand-offish and very overprotective of their hearts the next time around. They may have doubts. They may give the person a hard time but you cannot punish one person for what the other person did.

This is why it’s important to give yourself time in between relationships. You were so connected to this one person, so involved in everything, became intimate with them and you will carry part of that person with you.

Take the time to detach yourself from that person. Find yourself again. Some people get so involved and attached in a relationship they lose themselves in it and forget who they were prior to the relationship. Do things that bring you joy, peace, and comfort, especially if you were betrayed or extremely hurt in the past relationship. Therapy or anything therapeutic would be a great way to start. You have to give yourself time to trust again.

Remember that not everyone is the same so if you do start a new relationship after betrayal you cannot compare your new relationship with your last relationship. Unless you’re starting to see the same type of behavioral patterns as your last relationship. We all learn something in each relationship.

I salute everyone who loves again or gives love another try after being betrayed because it is NOT easy at all to trust again. But there is someone out there for everyone just remember to NEVER settle and love DOESN’T hurt, if it hurts it isn’t LOVE.

By Heidy De La Cruz

Daughter of God, Wife, Writer, Poet, Mother, and lover of life

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